Nurturing Our Sons’ Sibling Relationship Through ASD, the Holidays and Future

When my older son Aaron with Asperger’s was young, I immersed myself in ever-evolving goals for him, including school, social skills, comprehension, extracurricular activities and his emotional development. The holiday season always presented such fun and excitement while planning for how to make our Hanukkah celebration meaningful. Our joy expanded when we had our second […]

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Getting a Diagnosis When You’re Worried Your Child Has a Chronic Illness

The journey to finding out if your child has a serious disease or condition can be long and overwhelming. When my younger son confided he was having scary symptoms at 13 years old, our hearts froze with fear while keeping reassuring smiles on our faces for him. Trying to stay calm and positive that it […]


Deciding How and When to Tell Your Child They Have Autism

While struggling to do everything we could to help my son with high functioning autism/Aspergers progress and meet the ever changing goals we had for him, my husband and I wrestled with how and when to tell him his diagnosis. When he was little, we were so focused on his progress it was hard to […]

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Does My Child Have Autism? Mom Advice on How to Find Out

I will always remember sitting at the small table with my son’s kindergarten teacher in his classroom, knees knocking, heart beating, as she gently discussed the concerns she had about my son. She handled the moment so sensitively when she suggested I have him evaluated, but it is never easy to hear something could be […]


Proposed SFUSD Assignment Changes 4

Let’s talk diversity in schools. I’m in my fourth year as an SFUSD parent and have followed the schools and its assignment process for many years before that, so that many parents reach out to me for help. As a parent in a public school with changing demographics, I’d like to add my thoughts for […]


Principles for SFUSD School Assignment, Part II

I’m writing as a happy parent in SFUSD who has counseled numerous families over the years during the assignment process. For a moment, as school settles in, posting some lessons learned as a parent advocate. While roughly 80% of families receive a choice on their list, the remaining 20% quickly enter a painful process of […]


Back to School Tips for Children with Chronic Illness

Preparing a child or teen with chronic illness or medical complexities for back to school poses a unique level of anxiety and challenges. Worrying about how the school year will go for their health, whether the teachers and school will accommodate their needs, and if they will enjoy a satisfying social outlet like other children. I […]

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Coping and Self Care When Your Child Is in the Hospital 2

When your child is sick in the hospital, it feels like you’ve entered an alternative universe. That heart ache hit me like a tidal wave while caring for my desperately ill son in two children’s hospitals for eight months straight in 2015. Scared witless as Crohn’s Disease spread inflammation throughout my son’s digestive track, all I […]


How to Support a Mom or Dad Caring for a Child with Serious Illness 1

May 2015 was the worst Mother’s Day and birthday of my life. Watching over my desperately ill younger son lying in a hospital bed with a maze of tubes coming out of his nose and arm. There is nothing more painful for a Mom than watching your child suffer and worrying about how to make him well. Crohn’s […]

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Principles for SFUSD School Assignment, Part I 1

The weeks leading up to school assignments are challenging for many, especially those of us in San Francisco, where our public school assignments go through a lottery of sorts. Given recent events, including delayed communication of school assignments to both parents and schools and changes to the process for twins (and perhaps other changes), I’d […]